From Resentment to Gratitude

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One of my favorite sayings is, “What I focus on, gets stronger.”

For awhile I’ve been fuming over the disappointing performance of my yard service. So I fired them and then had no one to do the work. Yesterday, all by myself , I did the two tasks that most irritated me. Then, because I was in my yard, not looking from a window, I was able to see a solution to two more issues.

So I moved out of resentment into gratitude that I am still physically able to do a bit of yard work myself and imagine improvements.

Is my experience familiar to you?

Breathe

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Someone recently asked me how I stay so calm. My answer was, “I breathe.” I start most days with meditation, using a rosary that I watched being made by a Cajun woman in Louisiana. It’s made of hard, round seeds instead of beads. As my fingers move from seed to seed, I breathe in, “Yah.” I breathe out, “Weh.” Yahweh. The ancient name for God.

I go around twice. Then I’m fit to enjoy my day. How do you start your day?

Trust Yourself

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Last month’s travel was challenging for my body. But after several days’ rest, I felt strong. So I bought new hiking shoes and yesterday hiked a portion of my favorite Sedona Trail. It was the right level of challenge. Now I’ll slowly increase the distance as the fear dissipates. It was about this time two years ago that I broke my hip and began the long journey of recovery. It’s been slower than I wanted, but it’s been steady. I think it’s important, in recovery, to go at my own pace while pushing a bit to do what I truly want. What do you think?

June at Cannon Beach

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I’m spending June at Cannon Beach, Oregon, with my family, having a precious experience. As you know, I write an intention almost every day. Here’s what I wrote this morning: “I love.”

Notice there is no object for my love.

People are flawed. They say careless things. They make mistakes. My job is simply to love. My family has taught me this, and I’m grateful.

“Love is patient. Love is kind. Love keeps no record of wrongs.” 1 Corinthians 13

I love.

What is your intention for today?

The Power of Intention

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When I meditate, my mind clears, and my pathway forward becomes clear.

A few days ago, I flew for the first time with my dog. I had learned what I needed to do, and there was no more knowledge on that topic to be acquired. But I was uneasy. My knees are not as strong as they used to be. Would I be able to manage a suitcase and a dog in a carrier? I was full of apprehension.

I stewed. I worried. Then I meditated. After my mind was very still, this intention came to me: “I am uplifted by kind people who want to help.” I wrote it on my calendar for the day of travel. When that morning arrived, I got out of the shuttle that had taken us to the airport and started pushing my suitcase toward the door, carrying the dog in carrier in my other hand. Almost immediately, a young man was in front of me. “May I help?” He took me to the counter and went for a wheelchair. The moment I finished checking in, the wheelchair was there. Long story short, when I needed something, it was immediately provided, including a flight attendant who was a dog-lover.

When I landed, the wheelchair for me was first in line.

Intention works.

Just for Today

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“Just for today I will live through this day only and not try to solve all my problems at once” (from an Al-Anon bookmark entitled Just for Today.)

Memories of the past and anticipations of the future are not current reality. As I write, I’m looking over a pond where a mama duck is being followed by her babies. Earlier, I spotted two mourning doves guarding their nest.

When my mind is clear, I am free to notice what’s in front of me. My intention for the day: I am free to flow with the day.

Energy

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Last week I read a book entitled Rending the Veil by Ward J. Bauman, which was about the Gospel of Philip, one of the Dead Sea scrolls. This book awakened me to the realization that God is energy. Immediately, I remembered the burning bush that appeared to Moses. Then I thought of the pilot light in my fireplace, always there, ready to burst into full flame when needed.

What is God to you?

JUST FOR TODAY

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For almost 26 years I have worked the Al-Anon program, a way to live that is simple, but not easy. Its goal is for members to live peaceful lives, so that we emit the energy of serenity that sustains our own tranquility, as well as harmonious relationships. This morning I awoke with these words on my mind, from our bookmark entitled “Just for Today”: “Just for today I will try to live through this day only, and not tackle all my problems at once.” Along the way, I’ve also heard this slogan: “Be where your feet are.”

How are these words useful to you today?

Loving Ourselves

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Along the way, I have learned two important principles about love:

  1. Love is patient. Love is kind. Love keeps no record of wrongs. (1 Cor. 13)

  2. Love God first, myself second, and everyone else after that.

Lately I’ve been noticing that I say things to myself that I would not say to any other human being. Critical words. Harsh. So today I’m setting two intentions:

  1. Speak kindly to myself.

  2. Forgive myself easily.

How about you?

Stretching

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My creaky knees and hip surgery recovery convinced me that I have limitations and thus increased my fear of trying new things. But the opportunity to be featured at a writers’ event in Flagstaff drew me out, and I decided to give it a go. I discovered I can make a long drive, find my way to an event, set up, interact meaningfully with people, tear down, buy a couple of things at a favorite shop, and then (because I could not find the elevator to the parking garage!) carry a 20-pound bag down a flight of stairs to my car, followed by driving home.

Today I sense anxiety subsiding and other possibilities opening.

How have you stretched yourself lately?

Being

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Sometimes, in social situations, we play a role, behaving how we think a guest or host ought to be, according to some standard we learned along the way. I’m expecting guests for lunch. I just sent a text confirming the time and writing, “I look forward to BEING with you.” The word being jumped out at me. I realized that I want my focus to be not on what I do, but who I am with these dear friends. I shift my focus from food preparation to peace of mind and anticipation of meaningful conversation.

When you entertain, where is your focus?

Observing Nature

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I ate lunch recently at Up the Creek in Page Springs, AZ. My table was at a window overlooking Oak Creek, high above it. While I waited for my friends to arrive, I gazed at the scene. The water was so clear that I could see fish swimming. Then, dramatically, a great blue heron flew by, skimming the water. Close to my window, ruby red hummingbirds flitted in and out of the sunlight, flashing their brilliant red.

Suddenly, a male Western Tananger appeared on a branch close to the window where I was sitting, brilliantly yellow, even in the shade.

What is your experience of simply observing nature?

Constant Contact

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“Sought through prayer and meditation to improve our constant contact with God. . . “ is how Step 11 begins. Many years ago I learned that “constant” doesn’t mean “without ceasing.” The word for that is “continuous.” Rather, “constant contact” means awareness of presence to which I can reach out from time to time. These days, I reach out when I am overwhelmed with gratitude or when I need reassurance and guidance.

You write it: How do you treat God’s constant presence?

Neighboring

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In his opinion column for the New York Times, Thomas Friedman used the term “neighboring” to describe the Minnesotans whose kindness to each other is inspiring. Their neighboring took children to school, bought groceries, provided safe places to sleep, paid rent—and the list goes on.

A couple of years ago, when I fell and broke my hip, my neighbor arrived about the same time as EMT. She took my dog to care for him until I could make other arrangements. In the days and months following, she wheeled my trash cans up and down my long driveway. I didn’t ask her to do that; in the beginning, she anticipated my needs and then kept it up long after the need had passed—because she was neighboring.

I realize these two examples differ in magnitude. The first is high risk behavior on behalf of another one’s safety; the second, not. Nevertheless, the principle remains and begs the question, “To what extent are you there for others?”

You write it: Do you have someone who neighbors? Do you?

How are you?

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Friends are making major moves, leaving Sedona. My first reaction has been to resist. “No! You can’t do this!”

Then sadness took over—grief from anticipating the loss of their physical presence. I’ve spent days and days in sadness.

This morning, however, I awoke with the realization that, regardless of what others do, I am content, defined as “quiet happiness with the present moment.”

You write it: In the present moment, how are you?