What we see is what we're looking with

“There’s nothing either good or bad, but thinking makes it so.” Hamlet

“What we see is not what we’re looking at, but what we’re looking with. So let us find our eyes of love.” Twelve-step saying.

When I read the first quotation above, I was still in school. I thought, “That’s right.” When I heard the second quotation, I was in the early stages of Al-Anon recovery, and I began to take action. Knowing something intellectually is not sufficient without the action step.

I’ve recently become aware that there’s more work to be done in finding my eyes of love. How about you?

You write it: Whose behavior is giving you a problem? When you look at it through eyes of love, how important is it?