Transformation

Growing up, my daughter was quiet and shy. She relied on other people to speak for her in social situations. As she grew older, she had difficulty maturing into adulthood.

Recently I spent a few days with the independent, strong woman she has become. What created the transformation? You'll have to ask her; that's her story.

As her mother, my observation is that she moved to a city she loves, far away from everyone she knew. She bought a house in the section of that city that perfectly fits the lifestyle she wants. She kept changing jobs until she found one that suits her innate abilities, unique skills, and educational preparation. For many years she has been in a relationship with someone who loves, supports, appreciates, and takes pride in her. They live with two entertaining cats whom they adore, and they live within their means. They treasure their friends and neighbors.

In short, today she is confident and happy. What more could a mother want for her child?

You write it:  What gives you confidence, strength, happiness, and contentment?

From Mushiness to Clarity

About a year ago I made a career change. Instead of being a coach who also writes, I decided to be a writer who also coaches.

But I didn't phrase it in such a clear way. Instead, I said, "I'm going to see fewer clients in order to focus on my writing."

Writing has always come easily for me. It's fun, effortless. I even love revision. It doesn't seem like work.

Work has always driven me. It's been the pressure at my back, the weight on my shoulders. So to say writing is work seems strange. It's a new, light sensation. For the last year, I've felt adrift.

I think I'll stop using the word W O R K. When people ask what I do, I'll say, with a light heart, "I'm a writer who also coaches a few people with life and work issues."

This is how change goes for me, from mushiness to clarity. Once I'm clear, the change manifests.

You write it:  What are you being mushy about? By your mushiness, what change are you delaying? Are you ready to be clear?