Go to Neutral
/When other people do or say what you don't want or like, set your emotional state on neutral. Don't try to change them. Accept that you can't explain sight to a blind man.
After you have relaxed into your neutral state, move to compassion, a manifestation of love. Quiet, loving presence is a powerful force.
You write it: When was the last time you were with someone you wanted to change? What did you do? How well did it work?