Managing Grief

For two and a half months I’ve been away from this blog, grieving my husband’s sudden, unexpected death. Only now am I ready to share what’s working for me as I step into my new reality. I share these ways that have brought me through difficult days and that I trust will carry me forward.

1. Express gratitude. For even the most basic things. Like running water. Oxygen. Blue sky.

2. Make a list, but don’t let it take charge. Let the items on the list “float” and do them when the timing seems right. Always be open for spontaneity and changing the list. Make progress. Keep moving forward.

3. Plan something to look forward to that involves being with people I love.

4. Pour love into everything.

5. Be open to spirit. Messages may come from beyond. Recognize and embrace them.

6. Meditate daily.

Gratitude and love are stronger than grief. The grief is still here, like an underground river. While it’s flowing and healing what needs to be healed, I keep my focus on gratitude for 26+ years of marriage and amazing experiences with a good man whom I deeply loved. I’m also grateful for this chair I’m sitting on right now.